True listening is not something that we have been taught growing up in our families, amongst our friends or in school. True listening requires being in the moment. It also requires the letting go of your point of view, your thoughts and your agendas. True listening is an art. Have you ever examined whether or not you are truely listening? Have you identified what inhibits your ability to actually hear what another is saying with …showed first 75 words of 1626 total…

…showed last 75 words of 1626 total…nothing wrong with having an agenda. If you want a raise, a better relationship, or even want to appear something other than stupid, no problem. The problem only arrises when you are unaware of your own agendas and you are mechanically driven in your interactions with your life. If you are aware of things you want (or don't want) then you can include these preferences and then actively listen to what another has to say.